now I wait

Once again, Nick is gone... it isn't the first time, and unfortunately it won't be the last.  He will be in Mississippi for the next 3 weeks for annual training, or as I like to call it "playing Cowboys and Indians".  He left bright and early this morning on a fancy charter bus complete with satellite television.  If I've learned one thing during the past year, it's not to feel too sorry for the troops and their rough conditions.  Of course deployment is a different story, but during drill weekends and training they're usually living pretty nice and not working too hard.  I mean, really, what boy doesn't dream of spending his time shooting guns and simulating war?  It's all little boys do growing up.  Don't get me wrong, I'm a huge supporter of our troops and I'm more than happy knowing they're given nice accommodations and allowed to have a little fun when they're able to.  After all, 12 months away from family and friends in the desert isn't my ideal vacation.  They actually deserve more than they're given... they sacrifice their lives and defend our country, all in a day's work.  And while we sit around and complain about not enough paid holidays or having to work a little late one night, you'll never hear a soldier complain about his job.  They're proud of what they do, and they should be.

It's only been a few hours since Nick left, and already I miss him so much.  If there's one thing I can thank the Army for, it's allowing me to never take my husband for granted.  I spend too much time missing him and waiting for him to come home to not appreciate him when he's here.  Sometimes all I feel like I do is wait... wait for him to come home, wait for the next assignment, wait for the next phone call.  But it's all worth it... Nick is living his dream and reaching his goals, and I couldn't be more proud of him.  Not to mention he looks pretty good in uniform.

tick tock

I'm not a crier.  We all have our moments (especially around a certain time of the month), but I rarely cry.  I can hear tragic stories, watch heart-wrenching love stories, and witness the suffering and death of patients in the hospital, and although I'm sad I just don't cry.  Call me cold-hearted, uncaring, whatever... but it's just how it is.  I know deep down I'm a very compassionate person (and nurse!), but it doesn't usually show on the outside.

Recently, however, I've found that there is one thing that is guaranteed to bring tears to my eyes every time... the birth of a newborn.  During my OB rotation this summer I observed anywhere from 2-5 deliveries in each 12-hour shift, and each time my eyes got just a little watery.  I even found myself crying while watching TLC's "A Baby Story" yesterday.  I don't know exactly what it is, but it gets me every time.  I think it's a combination of the sheer joy and pride on the parent's faces the first time they see their baby, the overall exhilaration of the moment, and my own biological clock ticking louder and louder.  I can only imagine what I'll be like during the birth of my own children... if you plan on being there you might want to wear a raincoat.

oh happy day!

In honor of our 1 month anniversary, I thought I'd post a few of my favorite pictures from our wedding... enjoy!




change happens

So I'm officially a married woman these days.  So many things seem to be changing, but at the same time everything seems to be staying the same. Nick has been my best friend for the past six years, and we have lived together for so long that marriage seems to be nothing more than a sheet of paper. Not that I don't absolutely love that he is finally my husband, but my daily life didn't drastically change when we got married. At the same time I'm only 3 months away from graduating from nursing school, and hopefully less than a year away from becoming a mother. Talk about life changing. I'm anxious, I'm excited, I'm scared... but most of all I'm ready. The most important moments of my life seem to be happening all at once, and I love it. The best part is I don't have to do any of it alone... I have the most amazing husband that supports me through everything, and I couldn't ask for anything more.

One thing I'm not looking forward to in the coming months- Nick's deployment to Iraq. This will be his first tour, and my first big challenge as an Army wife. He'll be leaving December 5 for three months of training in Mississippi, and then will be on his way to the Middle East for a 12-month deployment. It won't be easy, but I know we can do it because we have to. I'm living proof that you can find a way to make it through anything if you have to. Looking at the big picture a year is only a very small portion of our lives together, but those 12 months are going to feel like an eternity. When he leaves I will be a 26 year old student and military wife, only responsible for myself, and when he returns I will be a 27 year old registered nurse and the mother of his child (if everything goes as planned- cross your fingers!). It's never easy to see him go, but I'm comforted knowing how proud I am of the brave man that he is, and what he is willing to do for our family and our country. I'm truly blessed, and I know it. Life will go on, and it will only get better from here.

With all of the new experiences and changes in my life right now, it seemed appropriate to begin writing about them. We often take for granted the little things in life that make us who we are, and I want to take the time to reflect upon my journey before I get lost in the chaos of life.

white phase begins

It's been a while since my last post... since then Nick has completed Red Phase and has been promoted to squad sergeant. He's now in charge of 12 men in his platoon, and has a lot more responsibility. Only a few guys out of 54 were given leadership positions. I'm so proud of him and everything he's accomplished.
In other good news, I get to see him in 37 days! At the end of basic training (the 1st 9 weeks) the base holds a family day weekend and the soldiers are given a 3 day off-post pass. I have already booked our hotel and scheduled the dogs to be boarded! Luckily his leave falls on Memorial Day weekend so I will be able to stay for the full 3 days without missing any classes. I can't wait to see him... I dream about it every night. I know I will have butterflies in my stomach for the entire 5 hour drive to Columbus.
I don't cry as often these days, but I still miss him like crazy. I will never get used to not having him around. The nights are still lonely, and the days seem to go by slower and slower. 70 more days until he comes home...

I hate silence

The last few days have been a little better, but I think it has more to do with the distraction of school than getting used to him being gone. Today was my second day without a letter from him. He warned me that when they officially started basic he wouldn't have time to write for a while, but that doesn't make it any easier. I can only imagine the look on my face when I opened an empty mailbox for the second day in a row. I hope he's enjoying everything that he's going through, and I hope that he is safe. Silence always worries me.
I'm tired of spending the nights alone, I'm tired of wedding planning alone, I'm tired of the silence in the house, and I'm tired of waking up next to Kilo instead of him. I can't imagine the day that he is deployed overseas and I'm forced to live without him for 12 months. I can't seem to make it for 2 weeks; how could I ever make it for a year? I think that's the hardest thing through all of this... knowing that when he finally comes back to me he will inevitably leave again. I've decided that life as a military wife sucks.

last call

Nick surprised me with another phone call today. Once again it was over as soon as it began. He has not received any of the six letters I have sent, so I assume he never will now that he is at basic with a new address. I wanted to stay strong and positive for him, but halfway through our conversation I began crying. I continued to cry for another hour after the call ended. Living without your best friend is not easy, and I can't say that I'm handling it well. I have a hard time believing that he is coming back, even though I have no reason not to. It's been 11 days without him and I don't feel any better than I did the day I dropped him off.

no more counting.

The last 10 days have felt like an eternity. Luckily I have received a letter from Nick everyday, and that is the only thing that keeps me going. Unfortunately it seems that the letters will stop soon and I don't know how I will handle that. In his letter today, Nick wrote that they finally shipped to basic yesterday and apparently he won't be able to write for at least a few days if not longer. He also informed me that our 14-week countdown did not begin until he arrived at basic. So instead of being separated for 14 weeks we will be separated for at least 15 weeks, and I'm starting to think that it may end up longer than that. If there's one thing I've learned about the military, it's that nothing is ever certain.
The sergeants like to tell all of the soldiers at basic that their girlfriends and wives will all cheat and eventually leave them, and the last thing I need right now is for Nick to doubt our future together. I've tried to convince him that I would have never made it this far and put up with so much only to leave him, but I guess it's hard to believe when everyone else wants to tell you something different. I know how much he loves me, so I guess I will just have to prove my loyalty and trust one more time.
I wish I could say that things are getting easier, but sadly nothing has changed. Some days are okay, and some days I feel like it's becoming even harder to cope without him. I can't even watch March Madness without getting upset, because I know that it's killing him to have to miss it. I'm becoming an emotional wreck.

hey good lookin'

I received my first letter from Nick yesterday. It was very short, but very sweet. They weren't allowed to sleep the first night they arrived at Fort Benning, and I feel terrible because we got less than 2 hours of sleep the night before he left. He won't have an address that I can write him at for at least another week.
Every day is getting a little better. I still fall asleep every night thinking about our reunion, but I'm starting to get back into my daily routine. My motivation for school has finally returned. I can't believe he's only been gone for six days... it feels like an eternity. 6 down, 100 to go... and tomorrow his countdown will be in double digits! It's the little things that keep you going :)